This November is a very special month for us. For one, my youngest daughter is getting married to a GREAT Guy for the second time within three years. They wanted to get married in Las Vegas on 11-11-11 like hundreds of others that day.
At first I was reluctant, but of cause like her Daddy, she has the talent to convince…before you know it, we were on our way to Vegas. I never been there before but my Queen and daughter’s have…numerous times. Because she got married there, I got to meet the Great Iron Mike Tyson…TWICE!!!
The reason why I am sharing this is because they are getting married thirty-two years to the date when I married my Queen, the mother of my two Beautiful girls and Grandmother to our four Grandchildren. What’s so cool about this is we too married twice.
The first time was at City Hall on Staten Island… and we went back to work the next day. That’s a whole story by itself. Now the second was on ourwenty-fifth Anniversary 11-21-2008 ” and this time I wanted to this right. I don’t mean just get married in a church with a small reception here.
I’m talking about throwing the BIGGEST WEDDING every little girl dreams about and her parents. This is how I did it. First, I had to buy her a diamond ring. I’m not talking about any ring either. I took my time doing research on-line.
I wanted to learn as much as I could about diamonds…even where they came from. I also learn about Blood Diamonds. The blood diamond workers in Africa are mostly under thirty years old, including children, which just sickens my stomach.
Approximately three millions of people were dead attributed to conflict diamond mining and the average of daily cost is about $0.07 per day if they are lucky, according to the Conflict Diamond Statistics whose sources are the World Bank, the United Nations and the Kimberly Process in 2/16/2012.
Just to be clear here, I copied and paste this info from a site. So when I picked out the diamond I wanted, I demanded to see the certificate that the diamond I purchased was not in fact a Blood Diamond in any way. They produced it and I was satisfied.
So now I had this beautiful diamond in my hand and now I had to do something that I always wanted to do…ask her parents for their daughter’s hand in marriage. That’s right….old school style. So when we went to Florida back in 2007, I sat with her dad the following morning having coffee together when I asked permission to married his little girl.
We denied him of every moment a dad dreams of…walking Daddy’s first-born and little girl down the aisle. So I wanted to do this right. First, I started off by apologizing to him for denying his special moment in life, even though he had walked both his other two Beautiful daughter’s, walking your first-born has a special feeling to it….it’s your first-born!
Then I asked permission to marry his daughter as a future husband should, and said to me how proud he was for having me as a son in law and was happy for both of us how we made a good life with each other, then said yes. We hugged and I thanked him.
Now my mother in law is a different story. I show up to her house on Staten Island after working the day tour and gave her a nice beautiful speech how we denied her the same way. But when I asked her permission to marry Donna I didn’t get the same response as I did with her ex husband.
She just looked stared at me for a moment, takes a drag from her cigarette then puts it out in the ashtray and say’s to me…Your Already Married! I love my mother in law dearly and we have history together. Face it, besides my Queen, she was the only one that believed in me that I would be a Police Officer one day when everyone else had their doubts.
She is also very beautiful for her age and Donna looks just like her. In guys world, we always look at the mother of our girlfriends and get an idea what they will look like many years down the road…Don’t be hating now…that’s what us guys do.
Many won’t admit it but most of us do. Anyway, after her smart ass response she did say yes and we hugged. Now for the big one. I had to think of something special to do when I ask Donna for her hand in marriage for the second time. But this time, it was going to be not only special but EPIC, and I thought of something so romantic and from my heart that she will never forget for the rest of her life.